Well here is simple answer to all of the questions above and probably why you have struggled with getting into a perfect impact position...
Golf is controlled by your left side! (assuming you are a right handed golfer of course)
Amateur golfers want to use their dominant side at all times, not knowing that this is the side of the body that is causing them to throw the club from the top, lose lag and get into that weak-flipped impact position. Your trailing arm is the only arm that is in a position to push the club causing you all of these poor impact conditions.
To correct it, you need to train your lead wrist the proper way to control the club so that you can swing the club freely with control, speed and accuracy. You must see a perfect video that will walk you through 5 critical steps that will teach you how to get into the impact position you have always dreamed of...5 minutes to a perfect release
-Dr. Jeffrey Broker, Assoc. Prof. in Biomechanics at University of Colorado at Colorado Springs and Former Senior Biomechanist for U.S. Olympics Committee
-Hub Orr - Happy PREMIUM MEMBER of RotarySwing.com
-Sam Jarman, PGA Golf Instructor in the UK